I thought I'd try and wait until tomorrow to write this but it's been so long (I've been out of town all weekend) and I won't be able to sleep unless I get some of these thoughts down!
Over the weekend the train guy called to see if I wanted to go out again. And I'm definitely going to go out with him again but I just don't know that we have all that much in common. Plus I had this GREAT date tonight with a new guy. He's the teacher I mentioned previously. We ended up having a three hour dinner and still had stuff to talk about! We had so much in common and were even sort of finishing each other's sentences. Wierd, huh?
So here's the catch (because with me there is ALWAYS a catch) . . . he's not someone I would normally be attracted to physically. He's super skinny (think high school cross country runner who never grew up and is now 27) but not necessarily unattractively skinny. Just a look that I've not really gone for in the past. But also in the past, I've always gone for physical attraction first, emotional/intellectual second. And the goal of online dating for me is to try and flip that around. And I think with this guy, I could possibly do that.
He's not someone I would pick out on the street to be attracted to but we just had such a good time and so much in common and it's not like I'm un-attracted to him (like the photographer guy) so maybe that could grow in time (something I'm also not used to but again . . . that instant physical attraction really hasn't worked out for me relationship-wise in the past). I think he's cute but I think I'd have to spend more time with him to see if that chemistry is there (aha - that's why they call this dating, isn't it? :) I think I've finally got it!)
Ha ha . . . isn't that a classic overanalyzation? Anyway, he's definitely going to give me a call later this week to make plans to go out again so I'm looking forward to that. And I guess I'll be seeing train dude again sometime this week, too.
So my goal for this week is NOT TO OVERANALYZE and just go with the flow and experience the dates and go with my gut feelings . . . you all might have to help me out with this! It's going to be hard to break the cycle of overanalyzation which has been ingrained in my head for so long now!
"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous." Carrie Bradshaw
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No no, not OVERanalyzing, just thinking things through...dating is so hard and its very difficult to find someone who is both attractive (to you) and also intellectually stimulating. So easy to find one or the other and be completely turned off! Excited to hear how things pan out...
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