Clearly you don't know me . . .

Someone recently left this comment on my blog anonymously in response to my last posting:

"i don't think him being a picky eater should deter you from a relationship. you have to open your mind a little."

First of all, this person clearly does not know me in the slightest and if they did they would realize that telling me to "open my mind" makes me want to punch them.

I believe in gut feelings; I believe in the "do I want to see you naked" test. And I also know from vast previous experience that if I'm unsure about someone and keep giving them chances, trying to convince myself that I like them, it's not going to work. I have to feel comfortable with them pretty much from the beginning. I have to have that flutter in my stomach and biochemical reaction from someone whom I want to procreate with. It's basic BIOLOGY (though I guess if you don't believe in evolution at all this explanation probably wouldn't satisfy you).

And if I start finding multiple things about them annoying, wierd or uncomfortable (or if I shirk away when they touch me), then I need to let it go and move on.

I think that many people are in relationships merely because they don't want to be alone and while that's fine and good if that's all you want, that is NOT all I want. I want the WHOLE package and I will find it. But I'm not going to settle or "open my mind."

Just had to get that off of my chest.