GUEST COLUMN: It's Me or the Music!

So as much as I enjoy reading these blogs, I thought, I too have a great story to tell you all! So it all started a little over 3 months ago, with a guy who we will call Jack (feel free to add an ending of your choice by the end of this read!) Jack is a teacher, a big important part of him being a teacher is that he teaches BAND! This will become apparent in importance later on in the story. We met online, the reason I was drawn to Jack was because he had such interesting e-mails and was very witty, engaging, and asked seemingly good questions compared to the other guys I had been corresponding with. I was drawn to him, I called him my premier guy! The catch is that we e-mailed back and forth for a whole month and a half, then IM’d for a of couple weeks with a few phone calls here and there. So before we met we “talked” for a WHOLE TWO MONTHS!! Although, it was two months I respected him for taking his time…as I am a naive online dater.

So we finally met for coffee. He was cute, and seemingly the type of guy I would normally go for…visually speaking. He was very conversational, had insightful questions, and had a sense of humor! I sensed his interest in me as well, as he laughed and smiled at the things I had to say! Three hours later, after a nice enchanting afternoon we needed to get going as we had other commitments later on that evening. He offered to walk me to my car as we were chatting some more. Then he says “I enjoyed meeting you. Thanks for meeting me.” I seriously probably looked at him with out saying anything for thirty seconds as I tilted my head to one side. Then I quickly snapped out of it and said, yeeahhh, it was nice meeting you, too. Then we were both on our separate ways. It was like a really beautiful song playing, then BOOM the music stops! WHAT JUST HAPPENED! Come on, he should know better than to do this, he’s a BAND DIRECTOR! So of course, I had to report my eventful afternoon to friends and family. I wasn’t quite sure what to think. It seemed that things were going pretty well, but he didn’t say he would like to talk or meet again??? I’ve been on many dates but nothing like this had ever happened.

So I ended up hearing from him over a text…and had IM’d as he said he had a great time when we met. Now why he can’t pick up the phone and call is beyond me. It was bugging me, he needs to call if things are going to progress. As a friend and I were talking I was discussing that if he doesn’t call me then I cannot further this dating experience with him! Magically, 30 minutes later he calls…on the phone that is! He left a message and it was late so I e-mailed him back with encouraging words as this must have been a big step for him!! So throughout the week we e-mailed back and forth once or twice daily with some text messages during the evenings.

So the time is coming that he ask me to do something again, and Ta-dah, he shoots an e-mail for me to do something, and notes “I know this is last second, but would you like to do something tomorrow?” I might be mistaken but date etiquette states to ask a girl out at least 4 days ahead of time AND asking over e-mail at this point is just inappropriate. I graciously, emailed him back and said that unfortunately I was busy, but would be available on Saturday or Sunday as it was Wednesday when I wrote him back. Thursday he wrote back and said Saturday might work, but he just can’t remember what he had planned and that he would get back to me… Ok, fair enough! As I knew it was his first week back in school and things were chaotic for him as he VERY devoted to his career (60-80 hrs a week devoted). Maybe he was a little frazzled! Surely, on Friday I would hear from him, right?!?!

WRONG, not a peep from him on Friday. I felt as if I was in competition with a bunch of MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS! I was about to write him off, how could he do this, I don’t like this emotional roller coaster. Then, ta-dah, I got a random text from him around 9ish that evening, I was still so agitated. As I was out enjoying myself that evening, I choose to not respond back. So for the breaking point, he calls Saturday in the late morning and had left a somewhat frantic message in assumption we had plans for Saturday evening??? SERIOUSLY!! Has he had one too many horn blows into is ear?! I was still contemplating what to do with this man. He apparently does NOT know how to date!

Lesson taught, we talked on Sunday and he attempted to make plans with me in ADVANCE this time for a Thursday! I knew he had been sick from the beginning of this week and we wrote e-mails here and there. So when Thursday rolled around I was anticipating an e-mail to determine where we were going to go for dinner! You guessed it! No e-mail! Here it is 4:45 as we were suppose to meet at 7 and I had not heard from him…this UNACCEPTABLE!! I didn’t know where we were going so I didn't know what to wear. Again, with the musical instruments! How was I ever going to rise above them! I get a call from him at 5 saying he is not feeling well, etc. I decided to be the nice girl and play nurse to make sure he has the medication need to feel better and continued with the get well wishes. Inside my head I was screaming, you have got to be kidding! When is this nightmare going to over!!! As he wanted to reschedule, I carved out some time the next night to have dinner with him, thinking the sooner the better! I almost just didn’t want to go, but a friend encouraged me too! My spirits were up, I decided to go . . . TO BE CONTINUED . . .