"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous." Carrie Bradshaw

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Did you really just write that?

So last night I was looking through some of the guys that this site has matched me with and came across this gem.

What is John most passionate about:
Probably the thing I am most passionate about right now is just going where life takes me. I won't get into all of it here but I've gone through some major life changing experiences the last couple months. I'm single again after several months, I've changed career fields, and I'm clean and sober(More than happy to share if you ask.) I think whoever gets with me just has to understand I have no set plans right now. I'm just taking it one day at a time. So to sum up, what am I most passionate about? Today it's today, tomorrow will be tomorrow, and so on and so forth.

The most influential person in John's life has been:
Well my grandmother but I guess that's kinda like my parents. The most influential people would have to be that wonderful new group I've joined, AA. If you read this and you're scared off by that, that's your choice, but until you ask questions and get to know the person that's your loss. I'm a great guy that has a great future ahead of me.

One thing that only John's best friends know is:
About my parents divorce and everything that entails with it. I could write a book about my father. That's a story for a different time.

Some additional information John wanted you to know is:
The short version is this. I am a newer member to AA, I'm up front and honest about it. I'm not looking for anything serious for quite a while, I'm probably looking for a good friend to start off with. Most of my time is spent working, going to meetings about 6 days a week, and playing volleyball/softball. I've come to respect the simple things the last couple months and basically starting from scratch again. If you have any questions about this I'd be happy to answer.


Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for people getting clean and sober and even believe that AA is a great resource and place to do so. But I’m fairly certain that AA has a rule not to get involved in a personal relationship for at least a year after you have been clean and sober. I’m also fairly certain that signing up for a dating website is a big NO NO.

I mean seriously, is any girl going to look at that and think, oh yeah, let's talk to him! He definitely seems like someone I would want to meet from a site I paid some major cash to in order to find my Mr. Right. Just reading that profile makes me want to run away screaming from him and it's just a profile. I know that some of you will probably think that this is harsh and I feel that I can make these statements given my background and family; alcoholism is a scary thing and most addicts just aren't capable of kicking it. There are a few incredible people out there who can overcome the addiction and go on to live meaningful, productive lives, but I'm personally not willing to take that chance on a random stranger on a dating site and don't believe that any other girl should either.

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